The Bremner's story – Losing Jen

Tuesday 15 November

The Bremner's story – Losing Jen

A cancer diagnosis affects the whole family. At Maggie’s we provide a unique programme of support that means we can be there for families through the darkest days of cancer, and help them to rediscover the joy of living.

It’s just over a year since Brem Bremner lost his wife and his children Kyle, aged 12, and Evie, aged nine, lost their mum. The whole family were supported by Maggie’s Glasgow and now they’re pulling out all the stops to fundraise for Maggie’s in her memory.

Jen Bremner was diagnosed with a rare type of cancer called leiomyosarcoma. Treatment gave her 15 more months to spend with her family before she died at the age of 46.

Brem said:

“With Maggie’s, the whole ethos is dealing with the mental and supporting side. It’s not just for the patients, it’s the whole family.

We were quite lucky as we have family and friends but when we went to Maggie’s, we realised there are quite a few people who didn’t have anybody. Maggie’s step in there and help them out emotionally, too.

Although the word cancer is quite frightening when you get diagnosed and it’s happening to you, it doesn’t always mean it’s terminal.

That’s where Maggie’s are really good for the other side of it – the non-medical bit. It’s finding your way through the minefield.”

Brem and Jen were honest with the children and told them she wasn’t going to get better.

“We were upfront and told them how it was going to be.

Telling the children that Jen had died was the hardest thing I have ever had to do but preparing them beforehand made it a little easier.

When I had to come back and tell them, they sort of knew. It made it easier having that conversation”

The family organised an amazing ball at Glasgow’s Grand Central Hotel in September 2016 and Kyle raised extra funds by dying his hair! He even made an emotional video talking about losing his mum to promote his fundraising.

 

Jen would be laughing her head off at Kyle’s hair. We’ve been to Maggie’s and all get so much benefit from it. This is his way of generating cash for a good cause.

He wanted to get involved and do something positive. There will come a time when we will step away from doing charity stuff but, for the first anniversary, it all seemed quite poignant.

Brem Bremner


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