"I soon realised that I'm not on my own"

Friday 30 August

"I soon realised that I'm not on my own"

Norman’s wife, Marilyn, was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin lymphoma in 2013. After 4 years of chemotherapy and radiotherapy, a stem cell transplant was the next stage of her treatment. 

Marilyn was too weak to undergo the procedure and passed away in November 2017. 

When Marilyn passed away, part of my soul died. 

We’d been married for 43 years and we lived for each other. We did everything together. The first 8 months I had no appetite, it’d get to 4pm and I’d have to remind myself to eat. I was heartbroken.    

A nurse at the Royal Oldham Hospital suggested that I come to Maggie’s. Nervously I walked through the door and there was a lovely warm atmosphere. A friendly volunteer offered me a cup of tea and I sat with the Centre Head for an hour whilst I talked about how I was feeling. She was the listening ear I so needed. 

I was introduced to the Psychologist for one to one bereavement support. These sessions really helped me to come to terms with my loss and supported me through the grieving process. 

I soon realised that I’m not on my own. Maggie’s has given me the opportunity to meet others who understand how I’m feeling. Through attending different groups, I’ve made friends – people that I can really talk to. 

There is always a warm welcome for everyone who visits Maggie’s. The kettle is always on, and now that my appetite is back, I enjoy the cakes too!

I’ll always miss Marilyn but Maggie’s gives me, and so many others, security and comfort.

Norman